parent and teach safe kids

Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

on June 4, 2014


Years before she became a celebrated speaker, author Lenore Skenazy learned that I was writing about teaching safety, and actually wrote and called me, or maybe I called her…can’t remember…. She was in a hot debate
As the World’s Worst Mom for letting her son take the New York Subway alone.

Since then I have stayed in communication with her, not always agreeing but totally supportive of the outcome we both believe in, empowered healthy kids, who know how to take care of themselves, given basic safety guidance.

We both believe that it is the parents who have become afraid, and then affected their children with the same fears. It reminds me of the parents of students I had over the years
Who were not allowed to have pets, because they could bite or scratch them.

Things I worry about.
Children sitting in front of a screen, your pick, tv, iPad, computer, video game, etc.
Children not playing in a group, riding bikes, running around with squirt guns, and water balloons, and basically laying outside, until they are really tired.
How many of us played outside? How many obese kids did you know who played outside?

I went to camp for 3 months , a whopping three thousand miles from home, when I was 8,9, 10 and 11. There was some supervision you bet, but I was not under constant surveillance. I learned to swim, ride a horse, raise a calf, feed the cows, new games, adventure, learned to Bail hay, camped and sang around a campfire…made homemade peach ice cream…picked blue berries in the White Mountains…..the best summers of my life.

I was always hungry at supper time , always happily tired at night and skinny as a rail.
I never once felt unsafe or afraid.

Even at home, we always played till dark or until our Mom whistled.

So why am I telling you all this?
I wrote a book to teach children how to be alert to behaviors, what to do if faced with bad behavior and what I had hoped to gain is empowerment for parents as well as children.

I have not seen the study Lenore discusses, with Forty year low in kidnappings,
But safety is so much more than that. It is teaching kids common sense and resourcefulness.
Think about the girl and boyscouts. Don’t they end up earning badges in being resourceful?
Knowing what to do when faced with situations, commonly called, life?

Yes, there will always be bad behavior with humans, from the playground to the grave.
But keeping a child locked up, or in a parade of careful scheduled activities is not the answer.

When you give my book, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?, 20131228-075925.jpgto a teacher, a new parent for a baby shower, to a friend, you are not just hoping to help their children become safe people, but the actual teaching of the kids then allows that parent to allow their child to become “Free Range.”
If parents each felt they have helped to develop a child into an empowered
Human being, you will see more children, emerging from their air conditioned homes,
Asking each other to go and play!

5 responses to “Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

  1. I am jealous that I did not go to camp
    with you…it sounds like a wonderful experience that kids in our generation enjoyed. Today’s children need to have similar times. I am a worry wart but totally try not to overprotect.

  2. Summer safety tip-
    Take your grands to the store this year, introduce them to the cashier as where to go if lost.
    Then take them to the back of the store, ask them to show you where the cashier is….follow them to her/him. Then have them practice saying they need help, (just pretending) and have them recite, their name, parents names, and phone number.

    I always use a rhyme to teach phone numbers…like twinkle twinkle little star
    Here is the one my kids learned, “667-6172, that’s my number, I love You.”
    My granddaughters and grandson have their own rhymes, but the parents picked which number they wanted memorized. It was the parent’s cell who would be the closest.

  3. Lorette, I wish you had been there too, we swam twice a day in Sunset Lake, and never too a bath all summer. When I think we used prell in that poor lake! We visited two years ago and it survived us….still too lovely.

  4. Barbara @ Just Another Manic Mommy says:

    let me just say this….i live on a dead end street where my neighbor will not let her 7 and 5 year old play in their fenced in backyard without standing there with them hovering. I can tell she has disdain for me because I allow my 3 to play in my yard and even the street (gasp!) while I go in and out of the out house, sometimes in for awhile preparing dinner (I look out the window from time to time). these are sad times….

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