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Three Girls approached by Man in Turlock…….or maybe your town?

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http://www.modbee.com/2014/03/25/3258626/warning-issued-after-man-approaches.html?sp=%2F99%2F1571%2F&ihp=1

I was so pleased to read your article!
The children who were being accosted did exactly the right thing. They did not hesitate, they had a plan. Say No!
To the bad behavior, Go and Tell!
These are the very kids I was hired when they were in elementary school to teach safety. I retired from Hilmar Elementary school to teach safety assemblies after writing the first national circular and inclusive safety curriculum for children ages 5-13.
For years dubbed, the “Safety Lady” I would arrive to give assemblies to students in Stanislaus and Merced County Schools. When the monies for assemblies dried up, I went to a publisher with my quest to keep America’s children safe. The first publisher leaped at this, and the book was published in 2010. It is available for every parent, teacher and school,
Teaching progressively 5-13 yrs olds to not be fooled by bad behavior when they are young, and to not fall into
The traps of the internet as they are growing……
A good safety plan is easy to remember, it is about BEHAVIORS

“No one is allowed to touch you where
Your bathing suit covers”
“No, Go and Tell!”
“Kick , scream, make a scene!”
” Never go to a second location!”
” Use the lighthouse walk!”
The attempted abduction in Hilmar in
1994, prompted this career, and now
I reap the benefit of hearing how three teens ran, and told.
I am very proud!
We cannot stop all bad behavior, but we can teach children to observe behavior and react quickly and stay safe.

Sincerely,
Retired teacher, advocate, speaker,
author, safety blogger,
Melinda Reynolds Tripp

What Should You Do?
Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty First Century
Tate Publishing 2010
Available to all parents, teachers
Grandparents…etc through
Amazon.com, where it retains a five star rating.

Sent from my iPad

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Stranger abductions are extremely rare, but bad behavior is not!

Make sure you have given your child a simple to use plan, to stay safe.
Say No! To bad behaviors and scary situation, Go, quickly and Tell a safe adult until they are heard, and the situation is resolved safely!
Give them a plan, give them a chance to have to tools to save themselves!

http://205.234.241.62/balitangamerica/pinay-girl-rescued-hours-after-abduction-by-stranger/

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MERRY CHRISTMAS AND THE NEW BIKE

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A BIKE CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

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Okay, that new bike is great, and shiny and fun……
But don’t forget about safety.
How to ride it safely, where to ride and with whom…….riding with a partner is always a good idea!
Watch for cars, pedestrians, download rules of the road for bikes and discuss.

You cannot take a child, attached gumby- style, to a bike and screaming for all they are worth, put them in a car….there is a story in my book about this also..
see lovely illustration from my book, above.

In my book page 81, I tell the story of The girl who was too much trouble!
It is Mickenzie’s Story,
She and her brother were coming home from piano lessons, riding their bikes down a dirt road.
They stopped to look at the grazing horses. They moved their bikes over for the oncoming truck, but it pulled over and stopped. The man chatted with the kids and talked about the horses. Soon he asked for their help, looking for his dog, told the kids he knew their parents and was sure it would be ok with them…if he could just put their bikes in his truck…….maybe he had a picture of the dog in his truck he said as he began opening the doors…..
Mickenzie’s had heard about tricks, at home and at a school assembly, watching, listening, and this felt bad,
( in my book I get children to tune into their natural intuition when it comes to behavior, if it feels bad, it is bad, get away)
Mickenzie’s knew there were people at the end of the lane and instructed her brother, loudly, to ride, go to them, get help, ….as the man abruptly picked her up, and tried to force her into his truck. With her foot she slammed the first door shut….he successfully pushed her through another door, started the truck, and attempted to drive. Mickenzie’s was having none of this, hitting/kicking at him she told him in no uncertain terms he was NOT taking her anywhere. Unable to drive, the man stopped the truck,
Told her to get out she would have to climb over him……(ugh!) she does this, jumps down and runs in the same direction her brother had gone, and sees him returning with the friends down the lane.
Victory. The man in this attempted abduction, was caught less than 24 hrs later, identified, and this brave girl, later the following month, sat on the witness stand, told her story, and put him behind bars.
She’s a wonderful young woman, a college student now……her parents wrote one of the forewords for my book…..she even takes time for Internet scrabble with me just to stay in touch😊

I use this story to talk about riding in pairs, about how you can use a bike to get away, about
And how to use the plan ( outlined in the book) to say no to any bad behavior, and to go, and tell their safe adults. That they have the power to save themselves if they ever need it.
It is a simple, easy to use plan that covers many situational safety problems as children grow.
Every child will run into their own problems..but they should each have a similar plan,
No, Go and Tell.

Read more about it in What Should You Do? For parents and teachers of children ages 5-13

http://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=978-1-61777-229-0
http://www.amazon.com/What-Should-Melinda-Reynolds-Tripp/dp/1616631406

A BIKE CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

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WHAT IS LIFE WORTH?

It is very important to have the discussion with your children about the value of human life.
Teach empathy. Model empathy. If a child can truly put themselves into the shoes of another
human being, you will have a great start on a child who will not bully but become a champion,
A defender, and that is a good and noble thing.
A boy I did not defend, in my neighborhood hung himself, back in the early sixties….I was young,
and no one had ever asked me if I had witnessed bullying…..no one had ever had a dinner conversation with me about what to do if I witnessed bullying….I didn’t do it, but I didn’t help either.
I am not sure I ever discussed it with my mom after….she was a single mom and had to struggle and get work and food on the table, a good mom, but just never thought of discussing this subject!

With the explosion of bad behavior on the Internet, we have this thrown up into our faces where it can no longer take a back seat. Bad children, are generally not being brought up in a framework.
As a teacher, I used to tell parents, that the child was the picture, but they were responsible for the frame.
So teaching safety, which I struggle to understand, has not reached importance.
Hence,
we have this generation growing up, exposed to so much at school, on television, and on the web, that must be handled, thoughtfully by parents, so that a child can navigate through. They need to see the positives, and the negatives and keep a set of values concurrent with those of parents who want to raise healthy, happy, and productive adults.

If you have not kept up with the news, you need to hear about the horrible, bullying that happened in Florida and then think, how you can use this story, and others like it, to have a discussion, with your children.

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Published October 15, 2013FoxNews.com

Rebecca Sedwick was “terrorized” by as many as 15 girls who ganged up on her and picked on her for months through online message boards and texts, authorities say. (MYFOXTAMPABAY.COM)
WINTER HAVEN, FLA – Two girls have been arrested in the death of a 12-year-old central Florida girl who authorities say committed suicide after being bullied online by several girls for nearly a year, a sheriff said Tuesday.

A Facebook post from one of the girls saying she didn’t care about the suicide of 12-year-old Rebecca Sedwick led police to the arrests, according to Sheriff Grady Judd. The suspects, ages 12 and 14, have been charged with felony aggravated stalking, according to the Polk County Sheriff’s Office.

“We decided, look, we can’t leave her out there,” Judd said. “Who else is she going to torment? Who else is she going to harass? Who is the next person she verbally and mentally abuses and attacks?”

“The parents were not doing what parents are supposed to do”
– Sheriff Grady Judd

Judd held a press conference on Tuesday morning and said authorities acted fast because even though the accused girls’ parents were contacted by police about Sedwick’s death, the parents did not cooperate with police and the girls were still able to use their social media accounts.

“The parents were not doing what parents are supposed to do,” Judd said. “My goodness, wake up, girl.”

He said police moved in and made the arrests because it was unclear if the girls would pick a new victim.

Judd said Sedwick was “terrorized” by as many as 15 girls who ganged up on her and picked on her for months through online message boards and texts. Some of the girls’ computers and cellphones were seized in the investigation. He said the two girls arrested were the major culprits. One of the suspects had been dating Sedwick’s former boyfriend. The two had gone to the same school where, at one point, there was a physical confrontation between the girls.

The girl who had been dating Sedwick’s former boyfriend went to friends around the school and tried to have them turn on Sedwick, Judd said. The girl posted comments on the Internet saying Sedwick should “drink bleach and die,” Judd said. The second girl arrested was a former best friend of Sedwick’s who was influenced by the other girl to turn on her, Judd said.

A man who answered the phone at the 14-year-old’s Lakeland home identified himself as her father. He told The Associated Press that his daughter was “a good girl” and he was “100 percent sure that whatever they’re saying about my daughter is not true.”

Judd said the girls face felony charges because of Sedwick’s age. Though Florida has adopted a bullying law, Judd said the sheriff’s office was not likely pursuing any other charges against the girls.

Judd said he released the names and pictures of the girls who were arrested because they’re accused felons. Fox News is not releasing their names or pictures because they are minors.

A 12-year-old girl was also arrested in the case. A message left at her Lakeland home was not immediately returned.

Sedwick’s mother removed her from the school after the 2012 school year, but the bullying continued on the girl’s cellphone via social media, Judd said. On Sept. 9, Sedwick climbed a tower at an abandoned concrete plant and jumped to her death, authorities said.

After the suicide, police looked at the girl’s computer and found search queries for topics including “what is overweight for a 13-year-old girl,” “how to get blades out of razors” and “how many over-the-counter drugs do you take to die.” One of her screensavers also showed Sedwick with her head resting on a railroad track.

Florida has a bullying law named after a teenager who killed himself after being harassed by classmates. Amended July 1 to cover cyberbullying, the law leaves punishment to schools, though law enforcement also can seek more traditional charges.

Both girls were charged as juveniles with third-degree felony aggravated stalking. If convicted, it’s not clear how much time, if any at all, the girls would spend in juvenile detention because they did not have any previous criminal history, the sheriff said.

“Time may not be the best trainer here. We’ve got the change this behavior of these children,” Judd said.

Fox News’ Edmund DeMarche and the Associated Press contributed to this

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Predators can hack your phone, and child’s locations

Open settings, under locations, turn off geotagging.
Do it today.

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