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IT HAPPENED LAST NIGHT AT THE FAIR!

A boy with sister in tow approached my daughter and granddaughter in the 4H petting Zoo Building at the County Fair.
He asked “Do you have a cell phone?” She assured him she did, and asked if he needed help.
He told her he couldn’t find his parents and then proceeded to reel off his parents cell number. My daughter was impressed and the family was reunited immediately.
She then bent down to hug her little girl who is four, and told her that is why she had taught her their cell number! She said, ” Did you see how he found a Mommy with a child to ask? That’s a good idea at the fair! ”
She then firmly held her hand and off they went to explore……..
Teach Safety Strategies!

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Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

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Years before she became a celebrated speaker, author Lenore Skenazy learned that I was writing about teaching safety, and actually wrote and called me, or maybe I called her…can’t remember…. She was in a hot debate
As the World’s Worst Mom for letting her son take the New York Subway alone.

Since then I have stayed in communication with her, not always agreeing but totally supportive of the outcome we both believe in, empowered healthy kids, who know how to take care of themselves, given basic safety guidance.

We both believe that it is the parents who have become afraid, and then affected their children with the same fears. It reminds me of the parents of students I had over the years
Who were not allowed to have pets, because they could bite or scratch them.

Things I worry about.
Children sitting in front of a screen, your pick, tv, iPad, computer, video game, etc.
Children not playing in a group, riding bikes, running around with squirt guns, and water balloons, and basically laying outside, until they are really tired.
How many of us played outside? How many obese kids did you know who played outside?

I went to camp for 3 months , a whopping three thousand miles from home, when I was 8,9, 10 and 11. There was some supervision you bet, but I was not under constant surveillance. I learned to swim, ride a horse, raise a calf, feed the cows, new games, adventure, learned to Bail hay, camped and sang around a campfire…made homemade peach ice cream…picked blue berries in the White Mountains…..the best summers of my life.

I was always hungry at supper time , always happily tired at night and skinny as a rail.
I never once felt unsafe or afraid.

Even at home, we always played till dark or until our Mom whistled.

So why am I telling you all this?
I wrote a book to teach children how to be alert to behaviors, what to do if faced with bad behavior and what I had hoped to gain is empowerment for parents as well as children.

I have not seen the study Lenore discusses, with Forty year low in kidnappings,
But safety is so much more than that. It is teaching kids common sense and resourcefulness.
Think about the girl and boyscouts. Don’t they end up earning badges in being resourceful?
Knowing what to do when faced with situations, commonly called, life?

Yes, there will always be bad behavior with humans, from the playground to the grave.
But keeping a child locked up, or in a parade of careful scheduled activities is not the answer.

When you give my book, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?, 20131228-075925.jpgto a teacher, a new parent for a baby shower, to a friend, you are not just hoping to help their children become safe people, but the actual teaching of the kids then allows that parent to allow their child to become “Free Range.”
If parents each felt they have helped to develop a child into an empowered
Human being, you will see more children, emerging from their air conditioned homes,
Asking each other to go and play!

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Three Girls approached by Man in Turlock…….or maybe your town?

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I was so pleased to read your article!
The children who were being accosted did exactly the right thing. They did not hesitate, they had a plan. Say No!
To the bad behavior, Go and Tell!
These are the very kids I was hired when they were in elementary school to teach safety. I retired from Hilmar Elementary school to teach safety assemblies after writing the first national circular and inclusive safety curriculum for children ages 5-13.
For years dubbed, the “Safety Lady” I would arrive to give assemblies to students in Stanislaus and Merced County Schools. When the monies for assemblies dried up, I went to a publisher with my quest to keep America’s children safe. The first publisher leaped at this, and the book was published in 2010. It is available for every parent, teacher and school,
Teaching progressively 5-13 yrs olds to not be fooled by bad behavior when they are young, and to not fall into
The traps of the internet as they are growing……
A good safety plan is easy to remember, it is about BEHAVIORS

“No one is allowed to touch you where
Your bathing suit covers”
“No, Go and Tell!”
“Kick , scream, make a scene!”
” Never go to a second location!”
” Use the lighthouse walk!”
The attempted abduction in Hilmar in
1994, prompted this career, and now
I reap the benefit of hearing how three teens ran, and told.
I am very proud!
We cannot stop all bad behavior, but we can teach children to observe behavior and react quickly and stay safe.

Sincerely,
Retired teacher, advocate, speaker,
author, safety blogger,
Melinda Reynolds Tripp

What Should You Do?
Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty First Century
Tate Publishing 2010
Available to all parents, teachers
Grandparents…etc through
Amazon.com, where it retains a five star rating.

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Stranger abductions are extremely rare, but bad behavior is not!

Make sure you have given your child a simple to use plan, to stay safe.
Say No! To bad behaviors and scary situation, Go, quickly and Tell a safe adult until they are heard, and the situation is resolved safely!
Give them a plan, give them a chance to have to tools to save themselves!

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Cars, Car Seats, and Parking Lots

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I had a wonderful letter recently from a lawyer in Utah. His firm is putting together a coloring book to teach cars seat safety. How wonderful for this nice group of people to take the time , talent and treasure, to reach out and make a difference.

I hope everyone I know uses the right size carseat. I know as each of my grandchildren has reached their next weight milestone my cars seats have been converted. The expense is not much compared to their safety, and comfort!

Casi, one of my favorite blogging buddies often talks about talking to her child in the car. It is, a quiet one on one place, to point out neighborhood landmarks, that will help them be safer bikers and walkers as they grow up. It is also a place to talk quietly to a child when you would like them to think for a while. I often used the time for a "Teachable moment."

Another friend told me that her grandson , living in a new town is given a map in his carseat,
With the route drawn on it so he can "help" Mommy get to where they are going. He has learned the name of the routed streets, go left here, right here……he is four mind you, a great technique I think. It also is a wonderful way for a child to start to think outside his/her little box. These skills will be useful all of his life.

When exiting the car, safety comes back into play. Be careful, hold hands……a parking lot has backing cars, show a child how the back lights and tires show them a car is backing up. Also explain about the mirrors of the cars. They help drivers see, but there are blind spots. A driver in an older SUV might not see a child because of height behind a car! Tell them that it is up to them to be watching just as their Moms and Dads are doing. Being alert, is definitely a theme for me as you know…this is just one more area of life that can be thought about, a parenting plan put into place, and acted upon.

We didn't have much car safety as kids, we rode in the back of a station wagon. I am glad we were not all killed in a freeway pileup! Car safety is important. Thousands of children are killed yearly, because they were not belted or in a carseat. make sure your kids are the safe ones.

I am glad that i was asked to look over this new coloring book, and offer input, further,
I'm pleased that wonderful people are making coloring books, thinking about child and car safety,
It is nice to hear and I wish them success in helping to make our children safer.

Happy Sunday
And Happy Thanksgiving!
Drive Safely and
Teach Safety

Melinda
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Use,
What Should You Do? Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century
To teach your students and children. Safety, is literally, for a lifetime. Teach them now.

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