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parent and teach safe kids

ABSOLUTELY NO BOREDOM ALLOWED!

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Ever!…….
Don’t let your child attach themselves to a device or ever dream of being bored!

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I Used to Be Pro Choice

When I was a young woman, I was pro choice. Never having had a child,
And being of a young mind, I had not taken the time to read, and think,
And understand what life meant, it’s worth. As I grew older I discussed it for years with my husband and eventually we both came to the same conclusion, ” Who speaks for the Child?”
As a child safety advocate, how could I not be pro life? Pro Child?
I think this gentleman said it well.

Re “Time for ‘family values’ Congress to value families” (Opinions, Jan. 26): You claim that some California congressmen are picking on kids and pregnant women by being “eager to force pregnant women to have unwanted children.” Take an honest look at the alternative: allow pregnant women to kill unwanted children – how is that not “picking on kids”?
Would you also advocate for allowing women to kill any “unwanted” children after birth? Those pro-life congressmen simply know the scientific fact you deny: Except for location, there is no difference in the humanity of an unborn baby and a born baby. Passing through the birth canal is a 12-inch physical change of location, not a transformation from blob of tissue to human being. The “choice” you stand for is simple: Pregnant women, mothers already, must choose between having a live baby or causing a dead baby. Standing up for defenseless unborn babies is virtuous; support for abortion is the epitome of anti-family values.
– Steve Beck, Merced

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IT HAPPENED LAST NIGHT AT THE FAIR!

A boy with sister in tow approached my daughter and granddaughter in the 4H petting Zoo Building at the County Fair.
He asked “Do you have a cell phone?” She assured him she did, and asked if he needed help.
He told her he couldn’t find his parents and then proceeded to reel off his parents cell number. My daughter was impressed and the family was reunited immediately.
She then bent down to hug her little girl who is four, and told her that is why she had taught her their cell number! She said, ” Did you see how he found a Mommy with a child to ask? That’s a good idea at the fair! ”
She then firmly held her hand and off they went to explore……..
Teach Safety Strategies!

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Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

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Years before she became a celebrated speaker, author Lenore Skenazy learned that I was writing about teaching safety, and actually wrote and called me, or maybe I called her…can’t remember…. She was in a hot debate
As the World’s Worst Mom for letting her son take the New York Subway alone.

Since then I have stayed in communication with her, not always agreeing but totally supportive of the outcome we both believe in, empowered healthy kids, who know how to take care of themselves, given basic safety guidance.

We both believe that it is the parents who have become afraid, and then affected their children with the same fears. It reminds me of the parents of students I had over the years
Who were not allowed to have pets, because they could bite or scratch them.

Things I worry about.
Children sitting in front of a screen, your pick, tv, iPad, computer, video game, etc.
Children not playing in a group, riding bikes, running around with squirt guns, and water balloons, and basically laying outside, until they are really tired.
How many of us played outside? How many obese kids did you know who played outside?

I went to camp for 3 months , a whopping three thousand miles from home, when I was 8,9, 10 and 11. There was some supervision you bet, but I was not under constant surveillance. I learned to swim, ride a horse, raise a calf, feed the cows, new games, adventure, learned to Bail hay, camped and sang around a campfire…made homemade peach ice cream…picked blue berries in the White Mountains…..the best summers of my life.

I was always hungry at supper time , always happily tired at night and skinny as a rail.
I never once felt unsafe or afraid.

Even at home, we always played till dark or until our Mom whistled.

So why am I telling you all this?
I wrote a book to teach children how to be alert to behaviors, what to do if faced with bad behavior and what I had hoped to gain is empowerment for parents as well as children.

I have not seen the study Lenore discusses, with Forty year low in kidnappings,
But safety is so much more than that. It is teaching kids common sense and resourcefulness.
Think about the girl and boyscouts. Don’t they end up earning badges in being resourceful?
Knowing what to do when faced with situations, commonly called, life?

Yes, there will always be bad behavior with humans, from the playground to the grave.
But keeping a child locked up, or in a parade of careful scheduled activities is not the answer.

When you give my book, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?, 20131228-075925.jpgto a teacher, a new parent for a baby shower, to a friend, you are not just hoping to help their children become safe people, but the actual teaching of the kids then allows that parent to allow their child to become “Free Range.”
If parents each felt they have helped to develop a child into an empowered
Human being, you will see more children, emerging from their air conditioned homes,
Asking each other to go and play!

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CHORES

Years ago in a parent – teacher meeting, the parents told me their child’s only work, was to do their homework, as being a student was their job.
I have always begged to differ. Parents are raising a person, not just a student. If you use this list as an somewhat outdated guideline, you will see that chores really are all about adult preparation.
Taking responsibility and being part of the team we call a family. I told my own daughters as they were growing, that we all supported our home, by working together. I used the example my mother used with me…..a house of cards, without support from all sides, can fall apart.
So it is wise to teach your child early that they are a part of a family, an important part, with an important role. Then, when they become students, when given homework, they will accept it as
a chore that is part of their own responsibilities. They will achieve more, because they accept that there is work to be done, to achieve results in the end. Homework will cease to be a battle if children accept work as part of life.
Bottom line-
The students who had responsibilities at home, generally, made very good students.

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