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Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

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Years before she became a celebrated speaker, author Lenore Skenazy learned that I was writing about teaching safety, and actually wrote and called me, or maybe I called her…can’t remember…. She was in a hot debate
As the World’s Worst Mom for letting her son take the New York Subway alone.

Since then I have stayed in communication with her, not always agreeing but totally supportive of the outcome we both believe in, empowered healthy kids, who know how to take care of themselves, given basic safety guidance.

We both believe that it is the parents who have become afraid, and then affected their children with the same fears. It reminds me of the parents of students I had over the years
Who were not allowed to have pets, because they could bite or scratch them.

Things I worry about.
Children sitting in front of a screen, your pick, tv, iPad, computer, video game, etc.
Children not playing in a group, riding bikes, running around with squirt guns, and water balloons, and basically laying outside, until they are really tired.
How many of us played outside? How many obese kids did you know who played outside?

I went to camp for 3 months , a whopping three thousand miles from home, when I was 8,9, 10 and 11. There was some supervision you bet, but I was not under constant surveillance. I learned to swim, ride a horse, raise a calf, feed the cows, new games, adventure, learned to Bail hay, camped and sang around a campfire…made homemade peach ice cream…picked blue berries in the White Mountains…..the best summers of my life.

I was always hungry at supper time , always happily tired at night and skinny as a rail.
I never once felt unsafe or afraid.

Even at home, we always played till dark or until our Mom whistled.

So why am I telling you all this?
I wrote a book to teach children how to be alert to behaviors, what to do if faced with bad behavior and what I had hoped to gain is empowerment for parents as well as children.

I have not seen the study Lenore discusses, with Forty year low in kidnappings,
But safety is so much more than that. It is teaching kids common sense and resourcefulness.
Think about the girl and boyscouts. Don’t they end up earning badges in being resourceful?
Knowing what to do when faced with situations, commonly called, life?

Yes, there will always be bad behavior with humans, from the playground to the grave.
But keeping a child locked up, or in a parade of careful scheduled activities is not the answer.

When you give my book, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?, 20131228-075925.jpgto a teacher, a new parent for a baby shower, to a friend, you are not just hoping to help their children become safe people, but the actual teaching of the kids then allows that parent to allow their child to become “Free Range.”
If parents each felt they have helped to develop a child into an empowered
Human being, you will see more children, emerging from their air conditioned homes,
Asking each other to go and play!

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Three Girls approached by Man in Turlock…….or maybe your town?

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http://www.modbee.com/2014/03/25/3258626/warning-issued-after-man-approaches.html?sp=%2F99%2F1571%2F&ihp=1

I was so pleased to read your article!
The children who were being accosted did exactly the right thing. They did not hesitate, they had a plan. Say No!
To the bad behavior, Go and Tell!
These are the very kids I was hired when they were in elementary school to teach safety. I retired from Hilmar Elementary school to teach safety assemblies after writing the first national circular and inclusive safety curriculum for children ages 5-13.
For years dubbed, the “Safety Lady” I would arrive to give assemblies to students in Stanislaus and Merced County Schools. When the monies for assemblies dried up, I went to a publisher with my quest to keep America’s children safe. The first publisher leaped at this, and the book was published in 2010. It is available for every parent, teacher and school,
Teaching progressively 5-13 yrs olds to not be fooled by bad behavior when they are young, and to not fall into
The traps of the internet as they are growing……
A good safety plan is easy to remember, it is about BEHAVIORS

“No one is allowed to touch you where
Your bathing suit covers”
“No, Go and Tell!”
“Kick , scream, make a scene!”
” Never go to a second location!”
” Use the lighthouse walk!”
The attempted abduction in Hilmar in
1994, prompted this career, and now
I reap the benefit of hearing how three teens ran, and told.
I am very proud!
We cannot stop all bad behavior, but we can teach children to observe behavior and react quickly and stay safe.

Sincerely,
Retired teacher, advocate, speaker,
author, safety blogger,
Melinda Reynolds Tripp

What Should You Do?
Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty First Century
Tate Publishing 2010
Available to all parents, teachers
Grandparents…etc through
Amazon.com, where it retains a five star rating.

Sent from my iPad

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Teach Behavior Awareness Not Stranger Danger

What safe kids do.

What safe kids do.

Most people are strangers to us, we have not met them.
Most of these people are good and have good behavior.
Teach your child what good behavior looks and feels like.
A very few people have bad behavior,
Teach your child to be aware of what people say and do.
It is the behaviors of the people around us that we need to be aware of.
Teach a child to use their intuition, be aware of behaviors.
If something sounds or feels wrong……icky……get away from those kids, teens or adults and go to a safe person to tell.
It is very important for your child to be grounded in the knowledge that if ey re kicking and screaming the good people who are EVERYWHERE, will help them!
For more information of parenting or teaching a safe child
Read
What Should You Do? Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century
By Melinda Reynolds Tripp On Amazon, or through your local bookstore
For use with children ages 5-13
In paperback, ebook and audio

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UW Student Home Invasion 911 Calls Show Terror

Two separate 911 calls placed by female University of Washington students during the same home invasion thwarted a convicted rapist who had held their six female roommates hostage at knife-point. The dramatic 911 recordings were released Tuesday by King County authorities, more than one week after…

via UW Student Home Invasion 911 Calls Show Terror.

In my  “9/11 philosophy”  for  a , ” Let’s Roll!”  situation,

(where one feels if they don’t do something then who will?)

is that the six girls being herded by one man with a knife  might have turned on him, frightening him out of the house.

I do not second guess them. I simply think that if every child were taught empowerment skills at an early age that they would not be as likely ever to be controlled by bad , even scary behavior, where compliance is demanded and expected.

In nearly every speaking engagement people try and trip me up and ask me about the most terrible situations that they can think of….

I always come back to the basics.  Give your child, teen, daughter , son…..a basic plan.  Say No!, to a bad situation, Go! and Tell!

You see parts of the plan here…..No, hide the knife, No – Tell call 911.

Empowered children, teens and adults are safer people.

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Bad Behavior in the News and Family Watchdog

What Can You do Today? go to familywatchdog.us/ You can ask for information on sex offenders, etc. who live/work in your area. 

 I get automatic updates and you can too.

There are good people everywhere and a few bad apples that muck it up for the rest of us!

If the shooting in Texas was not hair-raising  enough, let’s pay attention to the headline from Washington State,  and then applaud the students who called  911 to help them when a recent parolee broke into the roomate’s home.  He threatened, and began the systematic abuse by binding the first 4 girls laying on the floor. He laid down his knife when he ran out of electrical tape, and he began looking for something to bind the girls. 

Meanwhile in two separate areas of the home other roomates are calling 911.

Back at he scene of the unfolding crime, the two unbound girls have hidden and passed down the assailant’s knife beneath them as he went in search of more tape……

OUTSIDE- the 911 calls produce 4 police cars,

 the man is arrested without incedent……

The lesson-

The proactivity of the girls is impressive.  In the face of a very real and imminent threat, they took action ,and we should all give them an ovation!

Some parents, and hopefully teachers too, prepared these girls to act in the face of intimidation.  They turned their situation ” on it’s head.” SAYING NO! to bad behavior.

I always recomend children grow up playing in fun and safe ‘packs’

Here is a grown up example of young people working together to stop someone with very bad behavior.

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