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Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

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Years before she became a celebrated speaker, author Lenore Skenazy learned that I was writing about teaching safety, and actually wrote and called me, or maybe I called her…can’t remember…. She was in a hot debate
As the World’s Worst Mom for letting her son take the New York Subway alone.

Since then I have stayed in communication with her, not always agreeing but totally supportive of the outcome we both believe in, empowered healthy kids, who know how to take care of themselves, given basic safety guidance.

We both believe that it is the parents who have become afraid, and then affected their children with the same fears. It reminds me of the parents of students I had over the years
Who were not allowed to have pets, because they could bite or scratch them.

Things I worry about.
Children sitting in front of a screen, your pick, tv, iPad, computer, video game, etc.
Children not playing in a group, riding bikes, running around with squirt guns, and water balloons, and basically laying outside, until they are really tired.
How many of us played outside? How many obese kids did you know who played outside?

I went to camp for 3 months , a whopping three thousand miles from home, when I was 8,9, 10 and 11. There was some supervision you bet, but I was not under constant surveillance. I learned to swim, ride a horse, raise a calf, feed the cows, new games, adventure, learned to Bail hay, camped and sang around a campfire…made homemade peach ice cream…picked blue berries in the White Mountains…..the best summers of my life.

I was always hungry at supper time , always happily tired at night and skinny as a rail.
I never once felt unsafe or afraid.

Even at home, we always played till dark or until our Mom whistled.

So why am I telling you all this?
I wrote a book to teach children how to be alert to behaviors, what to do if faced with bad behavior and what I had hoped to gain is empowerment for parents as well as children.

I have not seen the study Lenore discusses, with Forty year low in kidnappings,
But safety is so much more than that. It is teaching kids common sense and resourcefulness.
Think about the girl and boyscouts. Don’t they end up earning badges in being resourceful?
Knowing what to do when faced with situations, commonly called, life?

Yes, there will always be bad behavior with humans, from the playground to the grave.
But keeping a child locked up, or in a parade of careful scheduled activities is not the answer.

When you give my book, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?, 20131228-075925.jpgto a teacher, a new parent for a baby shower, to a friend, you are not just hoping to help their children become safe people, but the actual teaching of the kids then allows that parent to allow their child to become “Free Range.”
If parents each felt they have helped to develop a child into an empowered
Human being, you will see more children, emerging from their air conditioned homes,
Asking each other to go and play!

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MERRY CHRISTMAS AND THE NEW BIKE

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A BIKE CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

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Okay, that new bike is great, and shiny and fun……
But don’t forget about safety.
How to ride it safely, where to ride and with whom…….riding with a partner is always a good idea!
Watch for cars, pedestrians, download rules of the road for bikes and discuss.

You cannot take a child, attached gumby- style, to a bike and screaming for all they are worth, put them in a car….there is a story in my book about this also..
see lovely illustration from my book, above.

In my book page 81, I tell the story of The girl who was too much trouble!
It is Mickenzie’s Story,
She and her brother were coming home from piano lessons, riding their bikes down a dirt road.
They stopped to look at the grazing horses. They moved their bikes over for the oncoming truck, but it pulled over and stopped. The man chatted with the kids and talked about the horses. Soon he asked for their help, looking for his dog, told the kids he knew their parents and was sure it would be ok with them…if he could just put their bikes in his truck…….maybe he had a picture of the dog in his truck he said as he began opening the doors…..
Mickenzie’s had heard about tricks, at home and at a school assembly, watching, listening, and this felt bad,
( in my book I get children to tune into their natural intuition when it comes to behavior, if it feels bad, it is bad, get away)
Mickenzie’s knew there were people at the end of the lane and instructed her brother, loudly, to ride, go to them, get help, ….as the man abruptly picked her up, and tried to force her into his truck. With her foot she slammed the first door shut….he successfully pushed her through another door, started the truck, and attempted to drive. Mickenzie’s was having none of this, hitting/kicking at him she told him in no uncertain terms he was NOT taking her anywhere. Unable to drive, the man stopped the truck,
Told her to get out she would have to climb over him……(ugh!) she does this, jumps down and runs in the same direction her brother had gone, and sees him returning with the friends down the lane.
Victory. The man in this attempted abduction, was caught less than 24 hrs later, identified, and this brave girl, later the following month, sat on the witness stand, told her story, and put him behind bars.
She’s a wonderful young woman, a college student now……her parents wrote one of the forewords for my book…..she even takes time for Internet scrabble with me just to stay in touch😊

I use this story to talk about riding in pairs, about how you can use a bike to get away, about
And how to use the plan ( outlined in the book) to say no to any bad behavior, and to go, and tell their safe adults. That they have the power to save themselves if they ever need it.
It is a simple, easy to use plan that covers many situational safety problems as children grow.
Every child will run into their own problems..but they should each have a similar plan,
No, Go and Tell.

Read more about it in What Should You Do? For parents and teachers of children ages 5-13

http://www.tatepublishing.com/bookstore/book.php?w=978-1-61777-229-0
http://www.amazon.com/What-Should-Melinda-Reynolds-Tripp/dp/1616631406

A BIKE CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

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Cars, Car Seats, and Parking Lots

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I had a wonderful letter recently from a lawyer in Utah. His firm is putting together a coloring book to teach cars seat safety. How wonderful for this nice group of people to take the time , talent and treasure, to reach out and make a difference.

I hope everyone I know uses the right size carseat. I know as each of my grandchildren has reached their next weight milestone my cars seats have been converted. The expense is not much compared to their safety, and comfort!

Casi, one of my favorite blogging buddies often talks about talking to her child in the car. It is, a quiet one on one place, to point out neighborhood landmarks, that will help them be safer bikers and walkers as they grow up. It is also a place to talk quietly to a child when you would like them to think for a while. I often used the time for a "Teachable moment."

Another friend told me that her grandson , living in a new town is given a map in his carseat,
With the route drawn on it so he can "help" Mommy get to where they are going. He has learned the name of the routed streets, go left here, right here……he is four mind you, a great technique I think. It also is a wonderful way for a child to start to think outside his/her little box. These skills will be useful all of his life.

When exiting the car, safety comes back into play. Be careful, hold hands……a parking lot has backing cars, show a child how the back lights and tires show them a car is backing up. Also explain about the mirrors of the cars. They help drivers see, but there are blind spots. A driver in an older SUV might not see a child because of height behind a car! Tell them that it is up to them to be watching just as their Moms and Dads are doing. Being alert, is definitely a theme for me as you know…this is just one more area of life that can be thought about, a parenting plan put into place, and acted upon.

We didn't have much car safety as kids, we rode in the back of a station wagon. I am glad we were not all killed in a freeway pileup! Car safety is important. Thousands of children are killed yearly, because they were not belted or in a carseat. make sure your kids are the safe ones.

I am glad that i was asked to look over this new coloring book, and offer input, further,
I'm pleased that wonderful people are making coloring books, thinking about child and car safety,
It is nice to hear and I wish them success in helping to make our children safer.

Happy Sunday
And Happy Thanksgiving!
Drive Safely and
Teach Safety

Melinda
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Use,
What Should You Do? Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century
To teach your students and children. Safety, is literally, for a lifetime. Teach them now.

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SAFE TIMES IN THE SUMMERTIME

SUMMER SAFETY TIPS FOR CHILDREN

Attend your local Safety Fair together.

Play and ride bikes in groups for safety.

Stay in parent approved areas.

Wear a whistle when alone and If you are in trouble blow it.
If you are lost while camping, blow it and sit down in the shade to wait!
You will be looked for!

USE THE LIGHTHOUSE WALK,
While walking keep an eye on what is going on around you
in front, back, and side to side. If you ever sense danger,
Run to a safe place, with a safe person and tell!

NEVER wear two ear buds while walking
You need all of your senses! Drop one while out of doors.
Compromise, safe and sound!

Stay away from cars parked with people inside.

DO NOT OFFER YOUR HELP TO AN ADULT YOU DO NOT KNOW.
This is just a trick, responsible adults find other adults to help them.

Wishing you all a safe summer!

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What Should You Do?
Helping Children Protect Themselves in the Twenty-First Century
2010 Tate Publishing
By Melinda Reynolds Tripp

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I said, ” I want to save the world!”

So when I am shot down by a young pack of mommys at a bridal shower, I wonder, what now? If I cannot convince moms that they can indeed teach their children safety skills, that those empowered kids could be a gang of fun-loving group of  safe kids playing kickball outside, then why am I doing this?

These moms swore their children, even in agroup, will not be allowed to play outside, then I say, you need to read, it is possible to overcome fear, by educating not just our children but ourselves as well.

Take to heart the knowledge, that most people are good, with good behavior. If you teach your child an easy to use and remember set of safety skills it is possible for you as a parent to breathe easier, These skills will

Be used the rest of their lives.  They CAN say no, to bad behavior, or a bad situation,

They CAN go and tell a safe adult…….train them, a safe parent teaches safety.

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