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Is Your Child a Free Range Child? Were you one?

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Years before she became a celebrated speaker, author Lenore Skenazy learned that I was writing about teaching safety, and actually wrote and called me, or maybe I called her…can’t remember…. She was in a hot debate
As the World’s Worst Mom for letting her son take the New York Subway alone.

Since then I have stayed in communication with her, not always agreeing but totally supportive of the outcome we both believe in, empowered healthy kids, who know how to take care of themselves, given basic safety guidance.

We both believe that it is the parents who have become afraid, and then affected their children with the same fears. It reminds me of the parents of students I had over the years
Who were not allowed to have pets, because they could bite or scratch them.

Things I worry about.
Children sitting in front of a screen, your pick, tv, iPad, computer, video game, etc.
Children not playing in a group, riding bikes, running around with squirt guns, and water balloons, and basically laying outside, until they are really tired.
How many of us played outside? How many obese kids did you know who played outside?

I went to camp for 3 months , a whopping three thousand miles from home, when I was 8,9, 10 and 11. There was some supervision you bet, but I was not under constant surveillance. I learned to swim, ride a horse, raise a calf, feed the cows, new games, adventure, learned to Bail hay, camped and sang around a campfire…made homemade peach ice cream…picked blue berries in the White Mountains…..the best summers of my life.

I was always hungry at supper time , always happily tired at night and skinny as a rail.
I never once felt unsafe or afraid.

Even at home, we always played till dark or until our Mom whistled.

So why am I telling you all this?
I wrote a book to teach children how to be alert to behaviors, what to do if faced with bad behavior and what I had hoped to gain is empowerment for parents as well as children.

I have not seen the study Lenore discusses, with Forty year low in kidnappings,
But safety is so much more than that. It is teaching kids common sense and resourcefulness.
Think about the girl and boyscouts. Don’t they end up earning badges in being resourceful?
Knowing what to do when faced with situations, commonly called, life?

Yes, there will always be bad behavior with humans, from the playground to the grave.
But keeping a child locked up, or in a parade of careful scheduled activities is not the answer.

When you give my book, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?, 20131228-075925.jpgto a teacher, a new parent for a baby shower, to a friend, you are not just hoping to help their children become safe people, but the actual teaching of the kids then allows that parent to allow their child to become “Free Range.”
If parents each felt they have helped to develop a child into an empowered
Human being, you will see more children, emerging from their air conditioned homes,
Asking each other to go and play!

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UW Student Home Invasion 911 Calls Show Terror

Two separate 911 calls placed by female University of Washington students during the same home invasion thwarted a convicted rapist who had held their six female roommates hostage at knife-point. The dramatic 911 recordings were released Tuesday by King County authorities, more than one week after…

via UW Student Home Invasion 911 Calls Show Terror.

In my  “9/11 philosophy”  for  a , ” Let’s Roll!”  situation,

(where one feels if they don’t do something then who will?)

is that the six girls being herded by one man with a knife  might have turned on him, frightening him out of the house.

I do not second guess them. I simply think that if every child were taught empowerment skills at an early age that they would not be as likely ever to be controlled by bad , even scary behavior, where compliance is demanded and expected.

In nearly every speaking engagement people try and trip me up and ask me about the most terrible situations that they can think of….

I always come back to the basics.  Give your child, teen, daughter , son…..a basic plan.  Say No!, to a bad situation, Go! and Tell!

You see parts of the plan here…..No, hide the knife, No – Tell call 911.

Empowered children, teens and adults are safer people.

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Safe and Sound- Attention Parents Who Have Kids Listening to Music!

  • Have your child access the situation before putting in earbuds to listen to their music
  • Green light, use of two ear-buds, in a safe situation, example , in their rooms,  with family home.
  • Yellow light, on alert someone or something may need your attention, example, walking to, or from school..drop one earbud allowing for safe and sound……a compromise.
  • Red light, drop the music for now, you need all your senses to get to where you are going safely!
  • It is not safe to drive or ride a bike with music earbuds in.  Start by being a good role model.
Learn more in the guide for parents, WHAT SHOULD YOU DO? On Amazon
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